On an individual basis, it’s well-known that self acceptance can make or break one’s confidence levels. One who isn’t comfortable in their own skin will have a hard time making friends, or even making it through day-to-day activities. But when that same lack of self acceptance is taken into account within a relationship, the effects can be even more widespread. Whichever individual lacks self confidence will always be looking toward the other in order to provide comfort, or even approval.
In short term, this is a recipe for an unhealthy relationship, one where the other is co-dependent on their significant other. In long term, however, it creates a situation in which one person is almost completely in control, while the other relies on them for everyday confidence. In whatever level it may exist. Obviously, this is an unbalanced combination of personal responsibilities for the one doing the encouraging. As for the one lacking confidence, he or she will never be fully able to accept themselves on any level. Let alone with another person in the mix.
While it’s regularly stated, it’s vastly important for one to accept themselves. Whether this is based on career, family members, or just overall personality, without doing so they will always work toward the expectations of others. Or rather, what they think to be the expectations of others. However, once working to accept oneself, actual growth can be had, leading to ongoing goals and personal growth. Which can then translate into growth within a relationship in an equal basis. Not where both sides are holding different responsibilities and expectations.
In order to create a healthy relationship, both sides should create healthy levels of self confidence, as well as self acceptance. To learn more about these aspects today, get in touch!